It’s Hard To Be A Father

This is a song about the love, the joy, the tears, the heartache, and the sadness of being the father of your children.  This song is about my oldest daughter in particular.  She was and is an angel.  The day she was born she touched my heart in ways I never imagined I could feel.  She truly was a gift from God that I can never repay.  I have fond memories like the nights she would fake being asleep so I would have to carry her up to bed, or the butterfly kisses she would give me each night or just the sweet love in her eyes and in her voice…….it would make me smile realizing how lucky I was.  

The song goes from her birth right up to her marriage.  The song expresses the pride and the sadness, we as fathers feel when we watch as they grow older and finally leave our homes.  I have 3 children I love equally, but the first and the last are special.  The first born changes your life for the better.  They shower you with love and affection and make you feel like your ten feet tall in their eyes. 

Your last is just that….the last.  The realization your life is going from lots of noise, laughter and tenderness….to an emptier home filled with quiet.  Most dad’s don’t think about it much. or at least admit that they do….because it hurts.  One day they’re here and the next they’re not.  The day my oldest daughter got married was difficult for me; realizing she would no longer be around in our home and the feeling she no longer needed me. 

Father’s and daughters are usually close, the same way as mothers and sons are.  Fathers and mothers give their love and time to raise their children and its hard to see them grow up and leave your care.

So to all the fathers who have that secret ache in their heart because your daughter has grown up and moved on…..you’re not alone and its perfectly normal to feel sad.  Its only proof you loved them.